In other words, “I was indifferent-to-enthusiastic about hurting other people and families until it affected me personally”

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      I don’t want to tell adults how to live their lives but adding immigration/citizenship to this dynamic certainly makes it seem more gross.

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        Who cares?

        Surely once someone is 40 they can choose to do whatever the fuck they want provided it’s not harming anyone.

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          Mail order brides are often abused in a myriad of ways, I don’t wish to describe, both before and after they get to their destination.

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            That’s certainly true, but my point is that the risks are dramatically diminished when the younger spouse is over 40.

            There’s every likelihood that being referred to, and categorised as, a “mail order bride” is more harmful to her prospects than her relationship is.