• Ilovethebomb@sh.itjust.works
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    In many cases, parent-child estrangements are a cycle — “they’ll re-engage, then they’ll fall out again,” Blake said. “One of the key things from the research is that adult children will reach out and if they see nothing has changed, they’ll estrange again.”

    No, I actually think it’s a pretty good article, and comes surprisingly close to outright saying the parents are the problem

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      In my experience, even when I’ve framed it as “something needs to change” to try to be less direct in saying that they need to change, they still just say “correct, you do need to change.” Hopefully some people will get it, though.

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        A few years ago, my dad was upset about how “you can’t say man or woman anymore. How are you gonna call the cops on someone robbing you? Say ‘It was a person average height!’ Or they’ll arrest you for using the word man!”

        I just asked if he was fucking stupid and does that sound like something that would even remotely happen, then said I was leaving if that’s how he thinks and left. Ignored any attempts at contact until he apologized and admitted he might be a little incorrect, which was progress enough to start.

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        Lmao that’s the hardest thing is realizing that there’s no magic words that will ever pierce their skull. They keep acting like you speak a foreign language because it’s easier to fake “not getting it” rather than come out and say the truth which is “I don’t value you enough to change my behavior”.

        Once I gave up and quit my life got a lot easier.

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        Do they ever hit you with this one?

        “Take responsibility for your actions/decisions!” While ignoring their own responsibility in it…

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          And ignoring the fact that they worship a man who is famous for never taking responsibility for anything, and that is exactly part if the problem in the first place.

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      I stopped reading as soon as I saw the double length hyphen which means it is almost definitely AI slop.

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        Do you not read books or something? These dashes have been in almost every novel I’ve ever read. They’re a pretty common linguistic convention if you spend any time consuming media that isn’t written in dumbed down internet lingo.

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          Lots of comic book letters used to (probably still do) use – to separate a little aside from the main thought. After using that for 30 years I learned it was an em-dash.

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        Dude. I learned to use a double dash for effect back in 1986 and I have used the hell out of that fucker ever since. Stop pretending that there’s one magical symbol that determines 100% that something was written by AI.

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        This isn’t as universally true as a lot of people seem to think. I’m not defending this particular article, as I haven’t even read it yet. However MS Word has been auto updating a dash to an em dash for years. Where do you think AI got it from in the first place?

        It can be a marker for text that is written in places where plain text is preserved. In a written article that most likely started as a word document? Not always the case.

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        AI learned that from training data, which means it was used by humans writing this kind of text. At least that was true before AI started feeding on itself.