I have recently received some feedback about including sexuality as a topic for dad jokes. Although it was not the most constructive of feedback, some points were made. Sex as a topic is not the same as sexuality, and I apologize for not making that distinction clearer. I was basing my moderating on what was being reported and sex being a topic as understood for children closer to puberty, although sexuality such as LGBTQ+ parents/partners/people can be understood much earlier. While I stand by still keeping actual sexual themes (anatomy, sex positions, etc.) as an off-limits topic for the community, sexuality seems reasonable to include.

This community is not static; I want to do my best to maintain a place that can grow with the community while staying true as a place for humor in a world that has plenty of unpleasant things. I am not a bot, and am indeed a person that is open to having respectful discussions.

Tell me what you think should and should not be included as “off limits topics.” Should profanity be allowed, or possibly only certain words? Are there other suggestions you have? I will try to look at the common themes from any feedback and apply them over the next two weeks or so.

Edit:

To further clarify this post, gayness and the like have never been and will continue not being against community rules. The post in question was removed in error because I am a sleep deprived human and made a mistake about removing a post about sexuality instead of sex. I am apologizing, had already restored the post, and am attempting to make it right.

I originally intended this community to be a place for jokes that can be told to a person of any age, since essentially every other humor source was already geared toward adults. I thought a safe age to draw that line would be five years old. This is where the “clean” and not “adult themes” considerations were made for not including jokes that featured drugs, swearing, and sex. Parenting is a very personal endeavor, and families may choose to talk about sex at age five. Parenting choices and styles are not the purpose of this discussion, and I can understand the visceral reactions people may be feeling, and I’d like to keep this discussion about what to improve about the dadjokes community.

Early in the formation of this community I asked the same question and got all feedback to keep it “all ages friendly.” I’m now seeing some people want to keep it “all ages friendly” and many that want to lift the limitations and simply keep the spirit of the dad jokes. As many of you point out, dad jokes are not limited to younger children or even being dads for that matter.

So far, it looks like the simplest answer would be to do away with c/unclejokes and remove limitations in c/dadjokes about topics for jokes. Is there a compromise for people that want to keep it “all ages friendly,” such as using the NSFW tag for certain posts? Or vice versa, have a tag for “kid friendly” or “safe for all ages”? Or leave it as a “free for all” and let people sift through as they choose? If the majority wants the “free for all,” I suppose there could be a separate community specifically for “jokes for all ages.”

As a reminder, please be respectful of each other. Aggressive comments will be removed.

  • Viking_Hippie@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
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    2 days ago

    I have recently received some feedback about including sexuality as a topic for dad jokes

    Hi, that was me 👋🏼

    Although it was not the most constructive of feedback

    Sorry about that. Usually my first instinct with a removal I consider unreasonable and where I know who did it is to state my case for reinstatement as calmly and politely as I can in a direct message.

    I have been rebuffed in doing so before, though, (sometimes angrily to the point of being punished for respectfully disagreeing with a moderation decision) and I guess I let bad experiences with less reasonable mods influence my reaction to the point where I assumed the worst, which wasn’t really fair towards you. My apologies.

    sex as a topic is not the same as sexuality

    True.

    I was basing my moderating on what was being reported

    While in essence that’s a good way to do it, sometimes that can be a form of peer pressure from people trying to enforce their opinion rather than the broader community making itself heard.

    I’m sure you know that, though, since you didn’t start moderating recently and sound reasonable, so this is more of a reminder for others in the discussion and no condescension or lecturing you about your “job” is intended.

    sex being a topic as understood for children closer to puberty, although sexuality such as LGBTQ+ parents/partners/people can be understood much earlier.

    This is where your otherwise reasonable argument falls apart, though, as the specific post you removed was clearly the latter and thus within the scope of this community rather than [email protected] or similar.

    While I stand by still keeping actual sexual themes (anatomy, sex positions, etc.) as an off-limits topic for the community

    Personally I disagree on that, but it’s not as important to me as it seems to be to the seeming consensus that agrees, so no worries 🙂

    This community is not static; I want to do my best to maintain a place that can grow with the community while staying true as a place for humor in a world that has plenty of unpleasant things. I am not a bot, and am indeed a person that is open to having respectful discussions

    This is pretty much the perfect attitude to have as the sole mod of a community like this one IMO, good on you!

    Should profanity be allowed

    I’m personally a big fan of profanity used well, but I can see how overuse or misuse could be unfortunate in this particular genre of humor, so I’d consider limiting it justified for once.

    After all, as someone else hinted at, avoiding “bad” words in front of the child is very much part of how literal dads typically talk, so cursing up a storm would be incongruous heh

    I’m still against a total profanity ban, but having common sense “don’t make the joke ABOUT profanity and prurient subject matter” and/or “don’t use it so much that the joke no longer fits the theme” limitations seems reasonable to me.

    I will try to look at the common themes from any feedback and apply them over the next two weeks or so.

    Thanks for being fair and reasonable about it and once again sorry for assuming that you wouldn’t!