“A lot of men and their behaviors have ruined this product.”

That’s men acting as they intended using a product as intended. There is no plot twist here.

You know that leading with benign parts doesn’t successfully hide the contradictions and unhinged parts later, right?

it’s got fuck all to do with me.

And therein lies your problem. You’ve taken something which seriously affects women at large, and reduced it down to something about yourself.

Empathy can be learned (it’s in us already, just needs unimpeded space). It’s a higher-order form of intelligence that helps us understand the connections between things that are not mechanical, but rather living: each other.

Sincerely, if you can’t see that the trends of behaviours like this in men outpace women significantly, you have a heavily skewed view of the realities here.

There are other phenomena too that uniquely affect men, such as violence towards a spouse when the man’s team loses a sports game.

There is no equivalent for women at that scale. We as men have to own these realities.