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Cake day: March 30th, 2024

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  • I think the key distinction is that you have to know and like the people outside the game. I used to have about 8 other people that regularly played Minecraft together and we did some impressively large scale things for a hand full of people with jobs and lives. It was honestly fun to just chat while we’re collectively digging a massive tunnel to build a functional rail network. Crack open a cold one with the gang but the cold one is actually a 4 month civil engineering project requiring us to terraform a continent.


  • I’m relatively late to no man sky, the original scandal burnt the bridge and I didn’t bother trying to fix it until about 5 years ago when it came up as an option for a space game to play with my brother. He ended up a bigger fanboy space engineer and NMS stayed the only unplayed game in my library until last year.

    I genuinely feel like it’s a great sandbox. That is to say, the fun comes more from the people you play with and your imagination than the sand itself. I genuinely feel that it would be my favorite game if I still had 2 or 3 friends to play it with. RPing as the haywired droid pilot of the Vagabond Moon as it smuggles goods to and from free space just doesn’t hit without a captain and crew.









  • Adding to the pile, babies sense your fear.

    Really though, they pick up on tone and body language and it can make their panic worse. Start making a mental checklist of needs and focus on that. Hold me, diaper, hungry, burps, teething, mom/dad, toy, pet, sleepy, panic. Keep your tone happy and confident, it helps them feel like it’s less of a problem. Right now, you are the god to them, if the god is scared what does that mean for us mortals?

    Find your comforts. It may feel like they have preferences, but what they’re responding to is just as much you as it is the stimuli. My boy didn’t understand the noise that magically appeared when he was colic, but he did understand that dad could tackle any fit he had while listening to Dido’s Life for Rent album. Eventually the hopeful melancholy and sleepy tones because a comfort to him as he grew to understand the noise.

    Find a stuffy that you and your baby both like. Everyone suggests getting 2 and cycling them so they don’t have to go without if it’s lost or damaged or dirty. I personally found that hard to do because he bonded to an anatomically accurate squid plush from an aquarium I’ve never been to so instead we made it a game, this is how squidly takes his bath. The uniqueness of the item made it easier to find and hard to forget.

    Find children shows you can tolerate or enjoy. Sarah and Duck from the BBC did wonders for me, it was quite enough to wear an earbud over and engaging enough to watch if I had to. Bluey seems like a similar choice, and I grew up Scooby doo so I never minded. It will save you the suffering that is children’s media if you curate it before you get there.

    Don’t be afraid to ask for help or take a break. We’re hardwired to feel bad about not responding when a baby cries, but you’re no good to that baby if you’re no good to yourself. If you need to lock yourself in a bathroom and cry or call family to take over, or just make it through a grocery store without getting puked on, do what you need to do to make it happen. They won’t remember you letting them cry it out but they will remember you being a hood example of mental health.

    On that point specifically, hit me up if you’re limited on peers with parenting experience. Shoot me a DM, I’ll give you my contact info. Goes equally for any reader in need. Sometimes you just need a chance to have an adult conversation or say fuck without worry, my doors are always open for that.



  • I’ve had to rethink a lot of my opinions in light of the Epstein situation, the response to trum, and AI. Where once I thought I was just a magnet for the survivors of sexual abuse, I now have to accept that it’s far, far more prevalent and it the fact that every person I’ve ever met being a sexually assaulted as a child isn’t an anomaly.

    In light of that, I can no longer argue that King’s sexual content was his way of pushing the envelope. The notorious scene in IT is an obvious example. I found it odd when I read The Girl Who Loves Tom Gordon, that he would dedicate so much detail to how a girl should piss and wipe in the woods or the relief she feels washing her ass in the creek after giving herself disemntary. I now have no choice but to accept that it was as close as he was allowed to get to fondling her on the page.

    It’s hard to like things these days.




  • Postmortal_Pop@lemmy.worldtoPolitical Memes@lemmy.worldMe neither
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    15 days ago

    I absolutely agree with this. The upsetting thing is that if you asked me today I’d gladly give W another two terms if it meant Trump was gone tomorrow. Bush may have been a shining example of everything wrong with the US, but that shine is hard to see under the bigger, blindingly shiny example that’s also constantly shitting that they installed next to him.