• Boozilla@sh.itjust.works
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    2 days ago

    I attempt to only talk about these things with IRL friends. When our opinions disagree, we’re all nice about it. When we agree, it’s really fun to geek out on it together.

    Even when we disagree, it can be fun to hear the reasons why. Because we don’t attack each other over personal preferences.

    But trying to do that online? Nah. Tis a silly place.

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      2 days ago

      I have a group of friends who have very distant opinions on the types of things we like, and having friendly arguments over these things is one of the highlights of my week.

      I daren’t even enter a forum for any of those hobbies online.

      I recently discovered that a band I like not only has a subreddit dedicated to hating it, there’s another subreddit dedicated to making fun of the other subreddit. This is in addition to the main subreddit which, can you believe? Is filled with drama over the other two, in addition to gushing over the artist who, quite frankly, is only ok. It’s kinda niche so they get a decent following just by filling in an undeserved market.

      But if this artist ran over a nun after robbing a bank, it wouldn’t even make front page news in LA.

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      2 days ago

      That’s the difference with political discourse today. You had an obligation to be nice to people in fear of getting punched. Too many people cower behind keyboards with big opinions today because they know if they acted like that in public they would be hit.

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        1 day ago

        dude, lucky you don’t live where i live because… they act like that in person where i live. and yeah nobody punches them. they encourage them for being ‘brave’. and if you be like ‘yeah maybe it’s not that bad’ they scream in your face.

        where i live there really isn’t much of a barrier anymore between keyboard tantrums and real life ones… which is precisely why I don’t go out less and less. at least once a week I have to watch someone have a tantrum or be really nasty to someone else and it’s almost always the same types of comments and reactions as you see on the internet.

        it’s incredibly cringe. and nobody pushes back because… other people agree with the shitty awful insane entitled crap people pull.

        Like i can’t even go read a book in a cafe anymore without some insane weirdo being all offended at me. I used to do it like on an almost daily basis and nobody ever bothered me other than to maybe ask me if i liked the book… now they come up to me unprompted and tell me how what I’m reading is racist/sexist/evil because it’s… classic lit from the 19th century and I am ‘spreading’ evil by reading these book sin public… it’s strait up ‘evil spirits’ medieval type shit, except I’m the witch.

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            9 hours ago

            it’s not a struggle. it’s life.

            is traffic a struggle? Is having to diarrhea a struggle? no, it’s just shit you have to deal with.

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              8 hours ago

              Well now you sound delusional. I’m happy to live in a part of the country that respects each other.

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                7 hours ago

                yeah i’m delusional. i live in Boston where everyone chokes on their own dick about how progressive they are, meanwhile being racist and sexist as fuck in their daily interactions.

                it’s well-known fact about this city. everyone has black lives matter signs on their lawns, but if a black man walks by their ring camera they call the cops. black lives only matter to folks here when they actually don’t see any black people…

                and if you tell them it’s racist to call the cops on a black dude just minding his business… all the sudden you ‘lack empathy’ or something… always an excuse with rich white/asian people as to why they are the most oppressed by everything/everyone.

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      1 day ago

      I used to have this… then the woke nutbags came along and decided all that mattered about you was your minor disagreements and you were a demonic evil person. I miss those days.

      in real life. but i live in a ‘progressive’ city full of people who have very reactionary attitudes. 10 years ago nobody cared about these things, and now it’s like all they razor focus on and they are super presumptive of.

      i literally went out to a place last night i used to hang out at with some friends… and the stereotypical woke person came up to me and told me I was ‘being problematic by taking up the corner’ or something, and I was like ‘yeah I’m trying to just do my thing here and not bother anyone’ and then they proceeded to tell me how i had to move because i was making them uncomfortable by doing my own thing and it bothered them. I rolled my eyes and they went away and I just decided to leave because it’s like… I get it you don’t want me to be here because I’m don’t look like you and it upsets you, even if I am literally just chilling and being nice. but since I take care of myself and am comfortable being quiet and chilling, i’m a ‘threat’ now.

      and way too many of my old friends have become that person… the ‘concerned’ person who thinks me eating a tuna fish sandwich means I’m now a ‘bad person’. It’s like, why bother interacting with you at all ever? all they live for is being miserable and whiny and blaming other people for their feelings.